Why are you doing what you’re doing?
Here it is as I write this, almost exactly one year later, I am trying to prepare for her eventual passing.
So in yesterday’s post, I described that my one goal for the next thirty days is to complete her advanced written directive.
I’ve learned so much about California law in the past couple weeks, thanks to unforeseen craziness on my mom’s side of the family. I got to speak to a lawyer for the first time ever in my life and she informed me that because my parents are still married, even though they haven’t been together for 20+years (isn’t that a crazy part of life) that my father would be in charge of her final wishes if she was unable to communicate.
Before I continue, the facts you need to know are:
(1) My father is my children’s nanny and I see him every week day.
(2) My parents get along very well and see each other about three times a week because my father helps me with her needs (getting food, etc.) besides bringing her to my home to see her grandkids on non-dialysis days.
(3) My parents live in two separate places.
And (4) My mother is legally blind and is dying of congestive heart failure, kidney failure, and goes to dialysis three times a week. She’s had both stints put in her arteries and open heart surgery. One year ago, one doctor told us that she probably doesn’t have more than 5-years to live.
Why am I going to help my mom complete her advanced directive in the next 28-days:
My mom is dying. The Lord knows when she is going to pass, but she doesn’t want my father to be the one to make decisions for her if she cannot communicate her wishes.
Just writing that above sentence made the in-denial-monkey come back…..
I am thankful, that this is the biggest thing I have to deal with right now. Thank you Lord.